Marcus wants to continue to date and to have sex to see if my feelings can change. I feel like a small-minded bigot that my romantic feelings about Marcus are based on something as randomly distributed as a penis. Now, I no longer feel either of those things and do not know if I can continue dating him. Before I found out he was trans, I was deeply attracted to him and was falling for him. Truthfully, had I known, I don’t think I would have had sex with Marcus. He worried that if I found out, I would expose him to our friends and peers and perhaps even press charges (because we had sex when I did not know he was trans). We go to college in a conservative part of the country, and almost no one here knows. He has performed oral sex on me and fingered me, but he never let me reciprocate and told me he didn’t want to have penis-in-vagina sex yet because to him that was a large commitment. My boyfriend of three months, “Marcus”, told me last week that he is a trans man.
